New Year new insight

So, most of you probably thought about resolutions/goals you wanted to make for the new year.  I personally did not.  At least not at first.  I admit I'm not a fan of goal making.  Not because I believe goals are pointless, but more so because I have felt I never succeed at goals I make.  So I just couldn't see the point of making a goal that I might fail at this year.  Instead I wanted to just go with what this year brought me and just continue to try and do my best in whatever it was I wanted to do.  This might seem narrow minded to those that make goals on a regular basis and maybe it is.  But I have struggled so much in the past where I make a goal and then fall short.  Maybe I'm not approaching it right.  Maybe I'm attempting more than I should.  Whatever the reason, I feel that I do better not making a super specific goal and then falling short.  I do make goals though.  They aren't laid out on paper with specific timetables or necessarily a desired result.  Instead I just decide I want to do something and see how it goes. 

So, after the official day of the new year passed I decided I had a goal I wanted to work on.  My tongue, or more specifically, my words.  I struggle a lot with saying negative things about myself, people around me, etc. that I can do without.  I also struggle with not saying enough positive.  I want to focus this year on being more proactive with decreasing the negative and encouraging the positive.  It's going to be really hard though.  More so on the positive side.  I am not very good at complimenting or uplifting people with my words.  It's not that I don't want to or attempt it, I just feel that I could improve. I know of those that whoever they are around they compliment and uplift.  They express love and appreciation for who that person is and what they do.  They overlook that person's negative attributes and only focus on the positive.  I want to be that person. I want people around me to feel loved, not necessarily by me, but because they have worth.  So many times I get caught up in what's not fair or why must people do this or that.  Instead I want to focus on how awesome someone is or what a great talent someone has. 

How will I do this? I don't know. Like I said I'm not so great at writing down a goal and putting down small goals and deadlines to reach it.  Although I figure my deadline is when I'm dead I hope I reached my goal.  But I do know that if I try to change things in my own life, such as studying scriptures more, praying more, participating in uplifting productive things, perhaps that will direct my tongue as well.  And to start off this goal I will studying a talk give by Elder Jeffrey R. Holland called "The Tongue of Angels".  It's worth a read or reread.